so my whole experience with sex ed has been awful.
Â the only time i remember having any kind of lesson of this kind was in year 5. i was 9, and all that happened was we saw a terrifying video of a lady giving birth, and the nurse told us that ‘you were born because your daddy and mummy had sex, because they are married and love each other’. 6 years later, and that’s the sex education that is supposed to last me through my teenage/adult years for the rest of my life. maybe i’m being a bit harsh. I’m sure the teachers thought our parents would do the nasty job, and everything would be fine, and actually i’m sure most kids in my year had the ‘talk’ with their parents and know enough to get them through. in my case, however, it wasn’t like that. we had the talk, but she refused to even imagine that i would need to know anything other than ‘once you’re married you will love your husband and you will make a child out of that love’. essentially exactly what i learnt in year 5. so by the start of year 10, the year sex suddenly starts being talked about, and half my friends were having experiences at parties and with boyfriends, i keow nothing of contraception, STDs, consent or any kind of LGBT sex. If it wasn’t for vague articles that briefly touch on the subject in magazines, scenes in films, what i’d heard from my friends, and inappropriate adult content i’d accidentally stumbled across on the internet, i wouldn’t even know how it was done. i heard about rape during year 9 from rude jokes boys made and i heard about gay sex the same way.
Last year i had an unpleasant experience with a boy at a party, and i now realize that what he did could be classed as sexual harassment. if he or i had had the appropriate education on consent, the whole experience (including months of discomfort at the memory after) could have been avoided.
To make matters worse, I’ve realized that i am bisexual. having had no education on same-gender sex, not being comfortable to talk to my mum about it, and not having any friends in my position, i now have two choices: to secretly search the internet for help (and risk seeing seriously inappropriate content/ probably wrong and rude answers) or go it alone and hope i don’t make a serious, life ruining mistake.
so i totally approve of this campaign, because i don’t want any kids growing up to make the same mistakes i did, purely because i wasn’t taught about consent and other important topics.